“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.”1 Corinthians 7:3-4 NLT
These verses are tricky for some people, I know they used to be for me. This morning in our hotel room we were lying in one another’s arms, enjoying our nakedness, when I began thinking about offering beauty. I do have to fully admit that I didn’t used to offer my beauty to hubby, I didn’t think I had beauty to offer. As I got deeper in conversation with God about it, the above verses came to mind.
Believe me, I’ve heard of many women being abused by husbands using that scripture to get whatever they want in the bedroom. It’s so sad that we live in a world where a man bullies his wife rather than loving well, he obviously isn’t “earning” that from his wife by loving her as Jesus loves the church.
Enough on that, I pray everyone reading this is safe in that area today. As far as offering my beauty, it has become a “turn-on” to me when I walk around naked, when hubby makes noises of approval as I pass by, or grabs a part of my body with a sound of longing come from his throat. I do have a mirror, I do know I’m not the sexiest 46 year old available. 30 or more scars are not the description of beauty for most, neither are deflated boobs that ensue because of extreme weight loss. I see my wrinkles, extra skin, and stretch marks. I know what this world has left my body looking like. THAT reason, that one, because I see it in the mirror, that is why I have to offer my beauty to hubby. When I watch his face as he looks at me each time with such a desperate desire to enjoy my beauty, that changes my vision. Truth is not in what I think about myself or see in the mirror, truth is in the eye of the beholder.
Sex today is so incredible. We’re not playing around with TheChallenge, it would be incredibly difficult to have made it two months, much less eight, if we weren’t having a REALLY good time in the bedroom. It’s not great every day, but it’s great 80% of the time and I’ll take it! Offering my beauty to hubby, letting him explore, me exploring him, I believe that is a major part of our design. The enemy has stolen that with mirrors and lies.
My mom always told me “if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing well and to the best of your ability”, I believe that. We’ve decided sex is definitely worth doing, so we’ll give it our best and learn to do it well. After all, isn’t it the best physical feeling your body has ever had?