Do you pray before you make love to your wife? Have you ever praised the Lord during a lovemaking session?
When I first heard of this concept I was a little unnerved! At that time, for whatever reason, there was still some shame in our sex life, even though I had been faithfully married (for twenty years!), and the thought of inviting God into it made me very uncomfortable. The way I was raised in church put lots of shame around sex, instead of celebrating it as a NORMAL part of marriage.
Chandra and I talked about it, she had been asking me to lead her in prayer, and so one day we finally tried it – and God showed up. He took away the distractions, which let us just focus on each other and the pleasure that He offers us through the gift of sex. And now it is a regular practice in our marriage. We don’t pray every time – because sometimes we are so hot for each other and don’t need prayer to center us! – and sometimes we just forget. But it has totally changed our sex life.
I have also been known to praise Him during our sessions – a quick “Thank you, Jesus for giving us the gift of sex,” or “Thank you for my sexy wife” can do wonders. (And I think a simple “Oh, God!” is probably worship and appreciated by our Creator!)
So I challenge you to invite God into your lovemaking, too – He is right there with you anyway! And see if God doesn’t bless your sex life in the same way He has blessed ours.
31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”[c] 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. – Ephesians 5:31-32