I’m Back…Hi!

Wow, it has been quite a while since I have written on here. I thought it was going to be a short break and it turned into a long one! I hope everyone is having a good year so far, ours has been full of change but very good. Hubby and I are working diligently at our office to grow it into a wellness clinic that will serve to help our patients find healing in many areas of their lives not just getting their back aligned. It has been a lot of work but it is paying off as we see lives changed and healing taking place.

Hubby and I are getting our lives to a settled down place at last. We found a new counselor a few months ago who attends our church and he has been a God send. Although hubby and I are best friends and we love each other deeply, we struggle in communication. Much of the time, we cannot stop talking over one another to even hear what the other is saying. I had a friend tell me today that when she pictured hubby and I fighting, she saw me as a little bit taller than him. I found that so interesting as he is 6′ and I am 5’7″ so I asked her why that was. She proceeded to tell me that because he is more of a quiet personality and seems somewhat passive and I am such a strong, head on personality, she thought he was taller but her picture was that I was the tallest in conflict. There may still be some truth to that in our past, and I don’t back down from my view often, but I shared with her that assumption is false. You see, hubby has no problem standing up to me, especially at home, only other people outside of our home. I assume it is a safety thing that he has dominance to stand up to me, he pretty much knows I am not going anywhere and I forgive rather easily.

We truly never know what is going on behind closed doors of another’s home, do we? Everything can look rosy from the outside, and we only have to put on those masks until we go home so most of us can do that. But, we never know what is truly going on behind closed doors. Behind our closed doors is no exception, hubby and I live a life together that might not look as good as our outside life. We aren’t purposely hiding anything, people simply make assumptions and I doubt it’s as good as they assume it is. We are doing better than we ever have before, and that is a blessing! Here’s what I mean by better…we are seeking God together daily, and multiple times throughout the day. I don’t think I ever dreamed I would see that day arrive but it truly has! I believe as we each seek Christ more separately, we are driven to do that with each other and doing that is the greatest gift we can offer one another.

I know TheChallenge last year was an odd one, one that I doubt we will attempt again, but it helped us have a drive to get through the most challenging year of our marriage to date. Our last pastor’s wife said that when they are working with married couples, they have found that there are lots of problems around the 7th year and the 25th year. The first is unrealistic expectations and the second is issues not dealt with, I can second those findings in our marriage. The enemy knows our struggles and as kids are growing up and moving out and for us, we work together and live together, he plays on those areas and if we haven’t dealt with them, they keep coming back up in not so good ways. If we aren’t seeking Christ together, consistently, the enemy wins way too much and I am not for that at all. I know hubby loves me and I love him. We have no desire to hurt one another but over the past couple of years, we have done a lot of that. When that is happening a lot, it is really difficult to laugh and enjoy one another and thus the marriage struggles and hope can wane.

I’m so grateful that God has us in a new season of life, we are dealing with roots of issues rather than the surface arguing that gets us nowhere. As we are growing and God is revealing more to us through marriage and life with Him, I will continue to offer the pearls of what He shows me on here because I can’t imagine a better place than where it all began. I hope this post finds you all enjoying your marriage and this beautiful weather God has given us. Get out this Memorial Day weekend and make some memories together!