“The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” – John 10:10, NLT
In 2015, I (Chandra) went through another round of medical drama that included pancreatic duct stones, pancreatic cysts, a blocked bile duct and a tube in the left side of my abdomen. I struggled with constant pain and nausea. . . and this was the first summer without kids at home since our first one was born in 1993!!! We had planned a summer of intimacy and exploration, but Satan had a different plan. By the time I got my tube out in January of 2016, the thief had stolen 224 days from the intimacy of our marriage and we have decided that we are going to steal it back! How?
We are going to have sex for 224 days straight!
First, let me say, that sounds like quite a challenge, I know. But let’s start with a little background:
Over the last several years, Matt and I (Chandra) worked diligently on our sex life as we began delving deeper into the Word of God. I remember soaking in my bathtub one night when I had been incredibly sick after we had “done it” again and asking God to make our sex life incredible. I think our sex life was better than a lot of marriages, but I wanted so much more.
I knew I was on my way out of the wilderness and I wanted true intimacy with my husband. Hubby had gone to a Wild at Heart Boot Camp in Colorado in 2008, he began his journey into freedom in Christ and all I knew was I wanted it, too. I’d had several surgeries that had led me deep into the dark world of pain pills. I began to cry out to God, I knew only He could save me. In March 2013, I got the opportunity to attend Captivating, a book and retreat by John and Stasi Eldredge, thus my journey into the freedom of Christ began. Hubby was going to fly out and meet me after the retreat, but his flight was canceled and he told me he would be there, so he drove my car (All night!) so he would be there!
That time following Captivating was blessed sexually, I’m not sure how it happened but we got vulnerable with one another in the bedroom and I never wanted it to end. I spent that year trying to do things ahead of God’s timing while I was barely beginning to learn to walk with God and hear His voice in my Spirit. We stayed intimate from then until the summer when one night after a long session, hubby pulled out a bible study from Relevant Church in Tampa Bay, Florida. He said, “I’ve had this for a while and God told me to put it away, so I asked Him to let me know when it was time. . . and it’s time”. I was a little curious, so I took it from him and it was a bible study on Song of Solomon. Not only was it a bible study but a worship study as well. Song of Solomon, I had learned only a few months before, is a sensual, sexual, love poem which helped me to accept a different belief than I had been raised to believe about sex, it had shame attached for WAY to long! So, I agreed (and secretly, I was really excited!) I knew it would be a challenge but I believed we were up for it. We completed the bible study and finished the homework daily ;-), and actually decided not to stop when we got to day 30!
So, here we are in February of 2016 and we are ANGRY at the enemy! One Sunday after an incredible Saturday night with hubbies ministry family, God began to speak to us about our future and it included rebuilding what was stolen from our marriage. We began to talk about doing the 30 day challenge again and from that, by nightfall, we decided on however many days were stolen would be the number. So, 224 it is! And, we invite you to join us on our journey with God into the deepest intimacy (In To Me See) we will ever know this side of Heaven.
Over the next 7 1/2 months we will be sharing our thoughts, struggles, blessings, and how God uses this challenge to deepen our intimacy with Him and with each other. We hope and pray that our “Just the 3 of Us” blog will be an example of how God uses sex within the covenant of marriage to draw us into deeper relationship.
The challenge begins on February 28, 2016!